Who Decides? Simple Answers for Common Wedding Choices

Planning a wedding feels like a daily quiz: Who picks the dress? Who pays for the flowers? Who coordinates the day? The good news is you don’t have to guess. Below are the most common decisions, who traditionally handles them, and modern alternatives that keep everyone happy.

Money Matters: Who Pays for What?

Money can turn a happy couple into a stress zone fast. Traditionally, the bride’s family covered the dress and flowers, while the groom’s side handled the tuxes and transportation. Today most couples split costs based on who can afford what. If the bride wants a pricey cake but the groom’s family is on a tighter budget, consider a smaller cake or a sweet table that spreads the cost.

Venue fees are another big one. In many cultures the venue is a joint expense, but some families follow the "who hosts" rule – the side that books the venue often picks up the bill. Talk about this early, write down who is comfortable paying, and stick to the plan.

Style Choices: Who Decides on Attire?

Attire decisions are usually a couple’s call, but input from close family can shape the final look. For the groom’s suit color, many follow the bride’s palette, yet the groom may want a personal twist. A quick chat with the bride and groomsmen can nail a colour that works for everyone without a long debate.

Parents often wonder what the father of the groom should wear. A safe bet is a classic navy or charcoal suit, but matching the wedding theme (like a dusty pastel for a garden wedding) adds a nice touch. Keep the dress code simple: tell the father’s side the colour range and let them pick a style they feel comfortable in.

When it comes to the wedding garter toss, the tradition says the groom throws it to a single male guest, usually a friend or brother. If you want a twist, let the groom choose who catches it – it can be a fun way to involve a close mate without breaking etiquette.

Still stuck on a decision? Use a quick poll among your inner circle. A simple group message with two options can break the tie fast. Remember, the goal is a day that feels right for both of you, not a perfect checklist dictated by old rules.

Finally, keep communication open. Write down each decision, assign a responsible person, and check in weekly. This reduces awkward money talks and avoids last‑minute surprises. With clear roles, you’ll spend less time arguing and more time enjoying the build‑up to your big day.