Garter Etiquette: When, Who, and How to Toss It Right

When the ceremony is over, many couples look forward to the garter toss. It’s a fun tradition, but if you haven’t planned it, it can feel awkward. Below you’ll find straight‑forward rules and handy tips so the moment stays light‑hearted and doesn’t turn into a headache.

Who Should Wear and Toss the Garter?

Traditionally the groom puts the garter on the bride’s thigh right after the ceremony. If the bride prefers not to wear a garter, you can let the groom wear it himself or have a trusted bridesmaid do the honor. The key is to keep it consensual—no one likes feeling forced into a moment.

When it’s time to toss, the groom steps away from the dance floor and tosses the garter toward the single men. The rule of thumb is that only unmarried guys should try to catch it. If you have a mixed group of friends, you can make a quick announcement: “Ladies, stay put—guys, get ready!” This avoids confusion and keeps the vibe fun.

Make sure the garter is securely attached before the toss. Tie a knot or use a small safety pin so it doesn’t fly off and land on someone’s shoe. A quick test walk around the venue helps you see if it’s snug enough.

Modern Twists on the Garter Toss

Many couples are updating the classic garter toss to match their personality. Some choose a silk ribbon instead of a traditional lace garter. Others turn it into a “garter cake”—a small, edible dessert that the groom feeds the bride before the toss. Both ideas keep the tradition alive while adding a fresh spin.

If you want to keep things inclusive, consider a “garter relay.” The groom hands the garter to a close friend, who then passes it to another friend, and so on, until it reaches the designated catcher. This way the spotlight stays on the couple, not just the single men.

Don’t forget to think about the venue. Outdoor weddings may have wind, so a heavier garter or a backup plan (like a short throw from a bench) prevents the garter from drifting away. Indoor spaces often have low ceilings, so a gentle underhand toss works best.Finally, capture the moment. A quick photo or short video adds a memory you can laugh about later. Ask your photographer to stay nearby, or set up a selfie stick for a quick snap. The garter toss is a brief, playful pause—make sure you enjoy it.

In short, the garter toss works best when everyone knows the rules, the bride and groom feel comfortable, and you add a personal touch. Follow these tips and you’ll keep the tradition light, funny, and memorable for all your guests.