The 3 Month Rule: Quick Guide to Planning Your Wedding

If you’re thinking you need a year to plan a wedding, think again. The 3 month rule shows you can get everything done in 90 days without losing your mind. It’s a step‑by‑step timeline that covers the big decisions first, then moves to the details. Follow it and you’ll stay on track, spend less, and still have a day you love.

Step‑by‑Step Timeline

Weeks 1‑2: Set the basics. Pick a date, lock in a venue, and decide on your budget. Those two things guide every other choice, so get them right early. Once the venue is booked, ask about any restrictions – noise, timing, or décor limits – and note them.

Weeks 3‑4: Assemble your core team. Book a photographer, caterer, and officiant. These are the three most important vendors; they fill up fast, especially in Bristol’s popular months. Get quotes, read reviews, and ask for a short contract that outlines deliverables.

Weeks 5‑6: Dress, rings, and style. Schedule dress or suit fittings, buy your rings, and decide on a colour palette. Keep the palette simple – a primary colour and a complimentary accent – to make décor decisions easier later.

Weeks 7‑8: Guest list and invitations. Finalise who’s coming, then choose a printable or digital invite that matches your palette. Send them out now so guests can RSVP within two weeks.

Weeks 9‑10: Details, details, details. Choose flowers, cake, and music. Use the 3‑month rule’s ‘quick‑vote’ method: pick three options for each, ask your partner which one they like best, and move on. This cuts decision‑fatigue.

Weeks 11‑12: Final checks. Confirm timings with every vendor, create a simple day‑of timeline, and share it with the wedding party. Do a quick run‑through of the ceremony space if you can.

Tips to Stay on Track

Put everything in a shared spreadsheet or app. When you see a task, mark it as done right away – the visual progress keeps you motivated. If a vendor says they’re booked, don’t panic; have a backup list ready.

Set a weekly “planning hour” with your partner. Use that time for one decision only – no multitasking. It keeps the process focused and prevents arguments.

Keep some budget wiggle room for surprises. Even with a tight timeline, unexpected costs pop up, like extra lighting or a last‑minute dress alteration.

Finally, remember why you’re doing this. The 3 month rule isn’t about rushing; it’s about cutting out the fluff and focusing on what truly matters – the celebration of you two.

Follow this timeline, adapt it to your own schedule, and you’ll have a wedding that feels planned, not panicked. Happy planning!